This was the first time I sat in a plane too! And you bet, I was pretty excited! The midnight flight that we took didn’t help much with sleep. I dosed off a little, here and there, hoping that it would be enough for the long day ahead but it didn’t help much.  The plane touched down the following morning and with sleepy eyes, we headed off to our apartment.

17th August, 2009- We dropped our baggage in “The Mantra on Russell”. The apartment was amazingly convenient, since it was in the heart of the city. And I loved that place! The girls didn’t think of bunking in there at first, since we had made a few arrangements with a few of the other girls, but thanks to Jonathan’s kind hospitality, we were able to stay in the same “depot” - for convenience’s sake and it saved us a lot of time too.

Shortly after that, Joshua brought us on a short tour in the city – which includes a delicious breakfast (sandwiches with cheese and bacon) by the graffiti streets of Melbourne city (Degraves Lane) and the everlasting, unforgettable taste of a hot chocolate.

The hot chocolate- This hot choc, kept us craving for more. We craved for one every single day! Every day-time meal that we had, was always with a hot choc!

18th September, 2009 – We headed to Victoria market for some shopping. I was personally amazed by how clean the market was! The cleanliness was nothing like Malaysia! “I love this place”, I thought to myself. “This is THE place to live!”. We had two lunches this day. One was by ourselves (near the market) and the other was with Josh’s and Pauline’s friend, Sophenie and family, along St Chapel Street. The Japanese food we had with Sophenie was delicious! Josh even had a second helping with rice and sauce . I was extreamly tummy belly full! 

Later, we took loads of pictures at the Shrine of Remembrance and the Botanical Garden. (pictures would be posted up by Josh. Do remember to take a look at Joshua’s Facebook photo album.. hehe)

The most memorable time I would ever remember was attending “Urban Life”, aka cell group, in Malaysian terms – led by Pei Jet (the UL leader). Her fire and spirit reminded me of who I’d used to be. She reminded of my first love with God and during those few hours with her and her members, God reminded me of the time “we” use to have and the moments and promises He had given – those fulfilled and yet to come.

God had definitely birth something wonderful in me that night. I came to remember Him. I came to understand His plans for me and the reasons I had to go through all that I had gone through. I came to understand that His plans are always good - plans of life and not one that harm.

19t September, 2009 – I sat in the coolest convertible ever! (We rented it for a days’ trip) and recorded a video of the convertible (hopefully Josh remembers to post it up) – for the jealous eyes of those who have not sat in one!! (haha) and took some amazing pictures up at Mount Dandenong, Tessellaar Tulip Farm, Miss Marples and the Observatory.  It was cold though. Really cold! – especially when the sun’s’ beautiful warm rays were hidden. I think I had worn 3 layers of clothing on this day. Gosh!

20th September, 2009- Camberwell flea market was pretty amazing. I had never seen so much willing buyers grabbing for a second hand item! At first I was kind of put off by the thought of buying something that had been worn/used by some strange person I did not know. But after awhile, the fancy stuffs sold there started to really amuse me. There were pretty cool stuff on display and I bought a nice leather glove for AUD20. I think that’s a lil pricy but what the heck!

Planetshakers church was our night affair. God spoke right through me again. I remembered His awesomeness. I remembered that He is love. I remembered His care. I remembered that He is a God that is all knowing and all loving! I can honestly confess that there we times that I felt so lost in all that had and is surrounding me, but at that Sunday evening service, I knew He was still there leading me though everything.

The following days, we made a trip to Ballarat (to see my cousin), watched the Royal Melbourne Show, had a nice picnic with Pastor John and his lovely family in Brighton Beach, saw nice colourful huts (or I think that’s what they are called), visited my Aunt in Vermont South, got our tyre punctured (we rented a car) whilst getting a fine for not paying our parking spot! We didn’t had to pay the fine though. (Long story, let me tell you when I see ya’ll).

Throughout the 10 days as well, I was blessed to have eaten Korean, Malaysian, Vietnamese, English, Aussie (kangaroo meat), Hong Kee’s ”chows chows”, had fantastic durian ice-cream in Laigoon St and drank loads of hot choc! I think I ate too much!

I bought loads of chocolates too!

All in all, it was a splendid excursion! One of which I’ll remember forever. I love the loads of nice and wonderful people I’ve met:

1. G-Ee and G-Teo – for their hospitality
2. Wei-Fong and Dom – for always keeping us warm in Balarrat
3. Joshua - for being a fantastic and patient tour guide
4. UL members – for a wonderful time in cell, the Kebab stall and our last dinner on Friday
5. Jono Ong – for being so cute! (haha) and for opening up his apartment for us to bunk in.
6. Tjokro – for being so cute! (haha2) and for the car rides and seeing us off to the airport.
7. Pau Pau – for missing us when we were away at our Aunt’s.. hehe.. and being such a wonderful CFO..
8. Ah Boon – for the nice meal me and sis had with Christine and Ben.

Agape
Shi Na

Faith in a prayer-hearing God will make a prayer-loving Christian. -Andrew Murray - 

I have seen many men work without praying, though I have never seen any good come out of it; but I have never seen a man pray without working.”  - James Hudson Taylor -

Prayer is surrender – surrender to the will of God and cooperation with that will. If I throw out a boathook from the boat and catch hold of the shore and pull, do I pull the shore to me, or do I pull myself to the shore? Prayer is not pulling God to my will, but the aligning of my will to the will of God. - Eli E. Stanley Jones –

Prayer does not mean asking God for all kinds of things we want, it is rather the desire for God Himself, the only Giver of Life. - Sadhu Sundar Singh -

Steven Sample, in his book The Contrarian’s Guide to Leadership, writes, “The average person suffers from three delusions: (1) that he is a good driver, (2) that he has a good sense at humor, and (3) that he is a good listener.” I plead guilty on ill three counts!

I will never forget the time a lady I worked with confronted me about my poor listening skills. She said, “John, when people talk to you, often seem distracted and look around the room. We’re not sure that you are listening to us!”

I was surprised because, like most people, I really did think I was a good listener. The first thing I did was apologize. I trusted the opinion of the person who had confronted me, and I knew it had taken courage for her to tell me. (I was her boss.) The second thing I did was start trying to change. For several years I made it a regular practice to put an “L” in the corner of my legal pad anytime I was in a meeting to remind myself to listen. Sometimes I would write “LL” to remind myself to look at them while I listened. It made a big difference in my leadership.

Steven Sample says, “Many leaders are terrible listeners; they actually think talking is more important  than listening. But contrarian leaders know it is better to listen first and talk later. And when they listen, they do so artfully.”

The positive benefits of being a good listener are much more valuable than we often recognize. Recently I read a humorous story that Jim Lange included in his book Bleedership.

A couple of rednecks are out in the woods hunting when one of them falls to the ground. He doesn’t seem to be breathing and his eyes are rolled back in his head.

The other guy whips out his cell phone and calls 911.

He frantically tells the operator. “Bubba is dead! What can I do?”

The operator, in a calm, soothing voice says, “Just take it easy. I can help. First, let’s make sure he’s dead.”

There is silence, and then a shot is heard.

The guy’s voice comes back on the line and says, “Okay, now what?”

As this story about rednecks illustrates—we can hear what is said without really listening to what is being communicated. The hunter above heard what the operator told him and technically did make sure that his hunting companion was dead. But had he really been listening. I don’t think he would have shot his partner.

The story may seem silly, but it contains an important truth. When we hear without really listening, our leadership is bound to suffer—and so will our followers.

I once read about a study that stated that we hear half of what is being said, listen to half of what we hear, understand half of it, believe half of that, and remember only half of that. If you translate those assumptions into an eight-hour work day, here is what it would mean:

• You spend half your day—about four hours—in listening activities.
• You hear about two hours’ worth of what is said.
• You actually listen to an hour of it.
• You understand only thirty minutes of that hour.
• You believe only fifteen minutes’ worth.
• And you remember less than eight minutes of all that is said.

That’s a pretty poor track record. And it shows that we all need to work much harder at actively listening!

Why Listeners Are More Effective Leaders

Because of my desire to be a more effective listener, I have actively observed leaders for years and paid close attention to how the effective ones listen to others. And I have come to come conclusions about the impact of good listening related to leadership.

1. Understanding People Precedes Leading Then.

Leadership finds its source in understanding. To be worthy of the responsibility of leadership, a person must have insight into the human heart. Sensitivity toward the hopes and dreams of people on your team is essential for connecting with than and motivating them. In my book The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, I write about the Law of Connection, which states, “Leaders touch a heart before they ask for a hand.” You cannot connect with someone if you don’t try to listen to and understand them. Not only is it not fair to ask for the help of someone with whom you haven’t connected, it is also ineffective. If you want to be more effective connecting with people, make it your goal to understand them. 

2. Listening Is the Best Way to Learn. 

It is no accident that we have one mouth and two ears. When we fail to listen, we shut off much of our learning potential. You’ve probably heard the phrase “seeing is believing.” Well, so is listening. Talk show host Larry King said, “I remind myself every morning nothing I say this day will teach me anything. So, if I’m going to learn. I must do it by listening.” In 1997 we moved to Atlanta, Georgia. Immediately I realized the influence of the African American community upon that city. I wanted to connect with people in that community and learn about their journey. I asked my friend Sam Chand to set up four lunches with some top African American leaders. For me, it was one of the greatest learning experiences of my life. Our time together was filled with our getting acquainted, my asking questions, and my listening to wonderful stories. I left each Lunch with new friends and great respect for the people I met and for their life experiences. Many individuals expressed their surprise to me that with my leadership experience, I did not try to teach them about leadership, but that I was the student and they were the teachers. If I had done that, I wouldn’t have learned anything. Today I am still listening to and learning from many of the leaders who became my friends at those lunches. 

3. Listening Can Keep Problems from Escalating.  

A Cherokee proverb says, “Listen to the whispers and you won’t have to hear the screams.” Good leaders are attentive to small issues. They pay attention to their intuition. And they also pay close attention to what isn’t being said. That requires more than just good listening skills. It requires a good understanding of people, and it also means being secure enough to ask for honest communication from others and to not become defensive when receiving it. To be an effective leader, you need to let others tell you what you need to hear, not necessarily what you want to hear. Gordon Bethune, former CEO of Continental Airlines, took this idea a step further when he advised, “Make sure you only hire people who will be willing to kick the door open if you lose direction and close it. You may be able to ignore somebody’s opinion if you don’t like it, but if the person has the data to back it up, your intellect should be able to overwhelm your vanity.” A common fault that occurs in people as they gain more authority is impatience with those who work for them. Leaders like results. Unfortunately that action orientation sometimes causes them to stop listening. But a deaf ear is the first symptom of a closed mind, and having a closed mind is a surefire way to hurt your leadership. The higher people go in leadership, the more authority they wield, and the less they are forced to listen to others. However, their need to listen becomes greater than ever! The farther leaders get from the front lines, the more they must depend on others for accurate information. If they haven’t formed the habit of listening – carefully and intelligently—they aren’t going to get the facts they need. And when a leader stays in the dark, whatever problem the organization is having will only get worse.

4. Listening Establishes Trust. 

Effective leaders are always good communicators, but that means much more than just being a good talker. David Burns. a medical doctor and professor of psychiatry at the University of Pennsylvania, points out, “The biggest mistake you can make in trying to talk convincingly is to put your highest priority on expressing your ideas and feelings. What most people really want is to be listened to, respected, and understood. The moment people see that they are being understood, they become more motivated to understand your point of view.”

Author and speaker Brian Tracy says, “listening builds trust, the foundation of all lasting relationships.” When my employee confronted me about my poor listening skills, what she was really telling me was that I was not trustworthy. She didn’t know whether her ideas, opinions, and feelings were safe with me. By becoming a more attentive listener, I was able to earn her trust.

When leaders listen to followers and use what they hear to make improvements that benefit those who speak up and the organization, then followers put their trust in those leaders. When leaders do the opposite—when they fail to listen—it damages the leader-follower relationship. When followers no longer believe that their leaders are listening to them, they start looking for someone who will. 

5. Listening Can Improve the Organization 

The bottom line is that when the leader listens, the organization gets better. Former Chrysler chairman Lee Iacocca asserted, “Listening can make the difference between a mediocre company and a great one.” That means listening to people up and down the line at every level of the organization—to customers, workers, and other leaders. 

Dallas-based Chili’s, one of the nation’s top restaurant chains, has prided itself in having leaders who listen. Norman Brinker, onetime owner and chairman of Chili’s, believes that responsive communication is the key to good relations with both employees and customers. He also has learned that such communication pays big dividends. Almost 80 percent of Chili’s menu has come from suggestions made by unit managers. 

Listening always pays dividends. The more you know, the better off you are—as long as you maintain perspective and think like a leader. Niccolo Machiavelli, author of The Prince, wrote. “Minds are of three kinds. One is capable of thinking for itself; another is able to understand the thinking of others and a third can neither think for itself nor understand the thinking of others. The first is of the highest excellence, the second is excellent, and the third is worthless.” To be a good leader, you must be able to not only think for yourself but also understand and learn from the thinking of others. 

Is it possible to be a leader without being a listener? The answer is yes. Talk to employees in companies all across the country and they will tell you that they work for people who do not listen to them. Is it possible to be a good leader without listening? The answer is no. No one can go to the highest level and take his or her organization there without being a good listener. It simply doesn’t happen, because you can never get the best out of people if you don’t know who they are, where they want to go. why they care, how they think, and what they have to contribute. You can learn those things only if you listen. 

Author and speaker Jim Rohn says, “One of the greatest gifts you can give anyone is the gift of attention.” I believe that’s true. But listening to followers isn’t just a gift to them. It benefits the leader too. When leaders listen, their receive others’ insight, knowledge, wisdom, and respect. That puts all of an organization’s assets into play ready to be marshaled for the fulfillment of the vision and the attainment of its goals. What a wonderful gift. 

Application Exercises 

1. Give yourself a listening audit. The next few times you are in meetings, ask your assistant or a colleague to track how many minutes you spend speaking and how many minutes you spend listening. If you are not spending at least 80 percent of the time listening, you need to improve. Try writing “L” on your notes where you will see it. 

2. Who doesn’t feel listened to? If people you work or live with feel that you do not listen to them, you will be able to see it in their faces. Think about the people who are most important to you in your life. The next time you have a conversation with them, stop everything you’re doing, give them your undivided attention, and look them in the eye as they speak. If you see surprise, avoidance, or hostility in their expression, it may be because they feel you have not really listened to them in the past. Start a dialogue on the subject. Ask if you’ve neglected to listen in the past, and then let them talk. Don’t defend yourself. Seek only clarification and apologize if necessary. 

3. What people have you neglected to seek out? Effective leaders are active listeners. By that I mean that they do more than listen to people who approach them with something to say. They seek out the thoughts, opinions, and feelings of others starting with the top leaders who work for and with them. If you haven’t heard from some of your key people recently, seek them out and give them your ear.

Firstly, I would like to thank God for His never-ending blessings upon my life. I was never a high achiever before I came to know the Lord at the age of 15. I accepted Jesus as my personal Saviour on August 1999. Since then, life has changed and God’s works in me were very apparent that people could see the difference and the life changing process I went through.

I would like to share about my countless testimonies and how God has blessed me abundantly and overflowing in my career, my profession and studies [Certified Practicing Accountant (“CPA”)]. God has secured a job for me a PricewaterhouseCoopers Taxation Services Sdn Bhd (“PwCT”) on July 2006. At that point of time, I was in my first semester, final year (i.e. Year 3) in Monash University Malaysia (“MUM”) and I got called up by PwCT for a pre-interview on June 2006 and at that time I was actually waiting for my results and entering into my final semester of year 3 at MUM. PwCT took my particulars when they came to MUM on April 2009 for a career talk. I went for the preinterview on June 2006 and thereafter I got shortlisted for the final interview towards end of June 2006 and amazingly I was hired by PwCT on July 2006, even though I have not completed my Degree at MUM. PwCT secured a position for me for 6 months till I graduate with a Degree from MUM. All glory to God. Matthew 6:33 “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you”. I trusted God fully and informed God of my condition and confirmation, which is if the job was ordained for me, PwCT would secure the position for me till I graduate. The condition came through and God has really blessed me, hence, I started my career in PwCT as a fresh graduate.

When I started my career in PwCT as an Associate Consultant (Corporate Tax Department), I had to enroll for CPA in order for me to progress up the corporate ladder. It was also a pre-requirement to be qualified (i.e. compulsory to own a professional certificate) in order for me to become a manager in future. The conditions to obtain a CPA certificate were to complete 6 papers within 5 years, a mentorship program and 3 years working experience with PwCT (i.e. one of the top listed and qualified companies in the CPA list). I completed the 6 papers within 2 ½ years as planned. I was eager to finish it fast so that I do not have to juggle between work and studies. Thank God for His guidance and teachings. It was not easy to juggle work and studies at the same time as it was very hectic and stressful. But with God, all things are possible. God has also sustained my health through the late and sometimes sleepless nights at work. 

In addition, God has also blessed me with a promotion from the position of an Associate Consultant to a Senior Associate Consultant in 1 ½ years and generally it takes 2 years to get a promotion. Once again, God has really blown me away and I am left speechless. I had a good increment and bonus subsequent to my promotion. God has truly blessed me abundantly. All glory to God!!! 

My next position would be Consultant (i.e. Assistant Manager) and PwCT had set a requirement to complete 10 Toastmasters’ speeches and become a Competent Communicator in order to get a promotion as a Consultant. I have completed all my 10 speeches within 2 years and obtained the certificate on February 2009. The completion of my 10th / final speech was a blessing from God. I was evaluated by the strictest evaluator in PwCT who has the tendency to ask speakers to redo their speeches. Nevertheless, the evaluator praised me for delivering a good speech, hence, my objectives of the speech were perfectly fulfilled and she applauded me for completing my 10th / final speech and congratulated me for becoming a Competent Communicator even before I received my certificate. The certificate was part of my performance appraisal to proceed to the next level as a Consultant on top of obtaining the CPA certificate.

My career coach (i.e. an Executive Director) has asked me to aim for a promotion as a Consultant this coming June 2009 and my appraisal last round was pretty good, hence, I just need to maintain my performance. I am committing my career into God’s hands for He knows best. Proverbs 3:5 and 6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your path”. God’s way shall be my way and God’s will is my will.

God has great plans for us and He wants to prosper us and bless us abundantly IF we choose to obey Him and follow His ways. Our church’s theme is “Be fruitful in the midst of affliction” and thus I encourage all of you to declare and proclaim that fruitfulness will come into our lives in the name of Jesus Christ.

“Greater and mightier things ahead”. =)

My wife, Margaret, and I love Krispy Kreme doughnuts. When we pass a Krispy Kreme shop, we always look for the red neon “Hot Dough­nuts Now” sign that tells potential customers that the doughnuts have just been made and are coming off the assembly line, hot and fresh and deli­cious. Although we do not allow ourselves to indulge often, occasionally we can’t help but give in to temptation. If we see the red light on, one of us will say, “It’s a sign from God that we should stop and buy a doughnut!”

One evening when we were approaching a Krispy Kreme shop, we could clearly see that the light was not on, but we decided to stop anyway. Much to our delight and surprise, the doughnuts were just coming off the conveyer belt, hot and gooey.

“You forgot to turn on the sign to let the customers know the dough­nuts are warm and fresh,” I said to the young lady who waited on us.

“Oh, I don’t turn that sign on a lot of the time,” she replied. “The moment I do, people come into the store and we get too busy. If I keep the sign off, it’s less hectic.”

I was stunned. I wondered, Why would she think like that? At first it didn’t make sense to me. But then, as 1 thought about it, I realized it was a matter of her position influencing her perception. She was an employee who didn’t want to be inconvenienced. Certainly if the owners had been there, they would have turned the sign on! They wouldn’t be hoping for convenience—they would have the success of the whole business and all of its employees in mind.

For more than three decades, I have hosted conferences and written books with the purpose of adding value to people. Experience has taught me a valuable lesson: no matter what I do or how hard I try to help people, not everyone will respond in the same way. Some people will attend a conference and their lives will start to turn around. Others will come and tune out everything I say. Some will change; some won’t. That has always frustrated me. I want everyone to learn, change, grow, and get better!

I experienced a “eureka moment” not long ago when I read something by speaker and consultant Jim Rohn. The article brought me great clarity on this issue. He has given me permission to share his words with you:

The first rule of management is this: don’t send your ducks to eagle school. Why? Because it won’t work. Good people are found, not changed. They can change themselves, but you can’t change them. If you want good people, you have to find them. If you want motivated people, you have to find them, not motivate them.

I picked up a magazine not long ago in New York that had a full-page ad in it for a hotel chain. The first line at the ad read, “We do not teach our people to be nice.” Now that got my attention. The second line said, “We hire nice people.” I thought, “What a clever shortcut!”

Motivation is a mystery. Why are some people motivated and some are not? Why does one salesperson see his first prospect at seven in the morning while the other sees his first prospect at eleven in the morning? Why would one start at seven and the other start at eleven? I don’t know. Call it “mysteries of the mind.”

I give lectures to a thousand people at a time. One walks out and says, “I’m going to change my life.” Another walks out with a yawn and says, I’ve heard all this stuff before.” Why is that?

The wealthy man says to a thousand people, “I read this book, and it started me on the road to wealth.” Guess how many of the thousand go out and get the book? Answer: very few. Isn’t that incredible? Why wouldn’t everyone go get the book? Mysteries of the mind….

To one person, you have to say, “You’d better slow down. You can’t work that many hours, do that many things, go, go, go. You’re going to have a heart attack and die.” And to another person, you have to say, “When are you going to get off the couch?” What is the difference? Why wouldn’t everyone strive to be wealthy and happy?

Chalk it up to mysteries of the mind, and don’t waste your time try­ing to turn ducks into eagles. Hire people who already have the motiva­tion and drive to be eagles and then just let them soar.

Jim’s perspective explains why the worker at Krispy Kreme didn’t turn on the sign, and why I was so surprised. While I was thinking about genera­ting income and maximizing profits, she was thinking about avoiding too much work.

Three Reasons Not to Send Your Ducks to Eagle School

For years my problem was that I believed that if I worked hard and taught the right things, I could turn ducks into eagles. It just doesn’t work. I have to admit, this has been a hard lesson for me. I place a high value on people. I sincerely believe that every person matters. And for years, I believed that anyone could learn just about anything. As a result, I repeatedly tried to send my ducks to eagle school. Here why I no longer do that.

1. If You Send Ducks to Eagle School, You Will Frustrate the Ducks

Let’s face it. Ducks are not supposed to be eagles—nor do they want to become eagles. Who they are is who they should be. Ducks have their strengths and should be appreciated for them. They’re excellent swimmers. They are capable of working together in an amazing display of teamwork and travel long distances together. Ask an eagle to swim or to migrate thousands of miles, and it’s going to be in trouble.

Leadership is all about placing people in the right place so they can be successful. As a leader, you need to know and value your people for who they are and let them work according to their strengths. There’s nothing wrong with ducks. Just don’t ask them to soar or hunt from a high altitude. It’s not what they do.

Author, pastor, and Dallas Theological Seminary chancellor Charles Swindoll illustrates this principle in his book Growing Strong in the Seasons of Life when he writes, 

Once upon a time, the animals decided they should do something mean­ingful to meet the problems of the new world. So they organized a school.

They adopted an activity curriculum of running, climbing, swim­ming, and flying. To make it easier to administer, all the animals took all the subjects.

The duck was excellent in swimming. In fact, he was better than his instructor was! However, he made only passing grades in flying, and was very poor in running. Since he was so slow in running, he had to drop swimming and stay after school to practice running. This caused his webbed feet to be badly worn so he became only average in swimming. But ‘average’ was quite acceptable, therefore nobody worried about it—except the duck.

The rabbit started at the top of his class in running, but developed a nervous twitch in his leg muscles because he had so much makeup work to do in swimming.

The squirrel was excellent in climbing, but he encountered constant frustration in flying class because his teacher made him start from the ground up instead of from the treetop down. He developed “charley horses” front overexertion. so he only got a “C” in climbing and a “D” in running.

The eagle was a problem child and was severely disciplined for being a non-conformist. In climbing classes, he beat all the others to the top, but insisted on using his own way of getting there! 

All people have strengths they can use to contribute. In The 17 Indisputable Laws of Teamwork, I teach The Law of the Niche, which says, All players have a place where they add the most value.” Successful people have discovered their niche. Successful leaders help their people discover theirs. As a leader, you should always challenge people to move out of their comfort zone, but never out of their strength zone. If people are moved out of their strength zone, they soon won’t be in any kind of zone—comfort, strength, or effectiveness.

2. If You Send Ducks to Eagle School, You Will Frustrate the Eagles

My mother used to say, “Birds of a feather flock together.” That’s really true. Eagles don’t want to hang around with ducks. They don’t want to live in a barnyard or swim in a pond. Their potential makes them impatient with those who cannot soar.

People who are used to moving fast and flying high are easily frustrated by people who want to hold them back. I heard a story about Christian Herter, the former governor of Massachusetts, when he was running for a sec­ond term in office. One day after a busy morning of campaigning and skip­ping lunch, he arrived famished at a church barbecue. As the governor moved down the serving line, he held out his plate to the woman serving chicken. She put one piece on his plate and turned to the next person in line.

“Excuse me,” Governor Herter said, “would you mind if I have another piece of chicken?”
“Sorry,” said the woman, “I’m only supposed to give one piece of chicken to each person.”
“But I’m starved,” the governor said,
“Sorry, only one to a customer,” said the woman. The governor was a modest man, but he was also hungry, so he decided to throw his weight around.
“Lady, do you know who I am?” he said. “I am the governor of this state.”
“Do you know who I am?” the woman responded. “I’m the lady in charge of the chicken. Now, move along mister!” Herter no doubt felt like an eagle who was being asked to answer to a duck.

Bill Hybels, a wonderful friend, came down to Atlanta to spend a couple of days with me. The first morning he said, “John, let’s go run on the golf course.”

Bill is a runner He’s slim and fit, and he often runs five to seven miles at a stretch. I, on the other hand, am a walker. (It’s possible to be fat and walk.) We compromised. We would go around the course walking uphill and running downhill.

Off we went. We made our way slowly around the course. As we were approaching the end, all I could think about was how glad I would be when we finally got back to my home and I could rest. Just a little more, I thought. We almost there. I was tired, but I didn’t want to let on to Bill.

As we finally arrived at my house, Bill said, “That was so much fun; let’s do it again!” So we did—and I almost died. I don’t think I want to exercise with Bill anymore. And I’m sure he doesn’t want to exercise with me. He’s an eagle, and I’m a duck!

3. If You Send Ducks to Eagle School, You Will Frustrate Yourself

Have you ever led people who never did rise up and fulfill your expec­tations? No matter how much you motivated them, trained them, provided them with resources, or gave them opportunities, they just didn’t perform according to your expectations? That’s happened to me many times.

Maybe they weren’t the problem . Maybe you were! A familiar Mother Goose rhyme reads,

Pussy Cat, Pussy Cat, where have you been?
I’ve been to London to visit the queen.
Pussy Cat, Pussy Cat, what did you there?
I frightened a little mouse under the chair.

Why did the cat start chasing a mouse in London when he was there to see the queen—a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity? Because he was a cat! What else would you expect him to do?

Cats do what cats do, ducks do what ducks do, and eagles do what eagles do. If you take a duck and ask it to do an eagle’s job, shame on you. As a leader, your job is to help your ducks to become better ducks and your eagles better eagles—to put individuals in the right places and help them reach their potential.

As I’ve said, over the years I’ve made the mistake of trying to turn ducks into eagles. All I did was frustrate them and myself. You shouldn’t ask someone to grow in areas where they have no natural talent.

Why? Because our ability to grow and change is very different depend­ing on whether or not we can make choice. Let me explain. In areas where we have choices, our growth potential is unlimited. Attitude is a choice. Character is a choice. Responsibility is a choice. So, for example, if I have a terrible attitude —a 1 on a scale of 1 to 10—I can improve it all the way up to a 10 by making the right choices. I can choose to have a great attitude.

In contrast, natural ability is not a choice. It’s a gift you have whatever you have. The only real choice you have is whether or not you will try to develop it. And if you do, the growth in that area will not be as dramatic. After training and mentoring people for forty years, I’ve found that people can improve only about two points out often in any given talent. Therefore, if a person is born a 3 in a given area, he may be able to become a 5, but he’ll never go from a 3 to a 10. So if you have someone who is a great swimmer and loves to fly in V formation, send him to duck school. No matter how motivated or intelligent he is, he’ll never become an eagle. You cannot put in something that God has left out

Know What You’re Looking For

A few years ago when I was speaking at a national Chick-fil-A-conference, a restaurant manager asked me a question: “How do you develop good leaders?”

My answer was, “Find people who are potentially good leaders.”
“How do you find potentially good leaders?” he asked.
“Know what potential good leaders look like I responded.

I wasn’t trying to be evasive or sarcastic. As a leader, it is your responsibility to know what you’re looking for. You need to know what qualities and characteristics are present in leaders who are successful in your industry. Study successful leaders. Interview people you admire. Ask them about their development process. Find out what they were like when they were just getting started. The more you know about leadership, the easier it will be to recognize a leader when you see one.

Its very important for a leader to get the right people in the organiza­tion and put them in the right positions. There are few things that a leader does that are more important than this. If you need eagles in your organization, make it your mission to search for people who possess some of the qualities you’ve seen in other eagles. Look high and low. If you can’t find any potential eagles within your organization, search for them outside of it. In other words, if you need a great eagle, go find a potential eagle. Only then do you have the possibility of developing that person into a great eagle. Don’t get a duck. No matter how much you train that person, all you’ll receive is a “quack.”

Application Exercises

A. Who have you put in the wrong place? If you are the leader of an organi­zation, a department, or a team, then it is your responsibility to make sure people are working according to their strengths. Have you been trying to turn ducks into eagles, frustrating everyone in the process? Set aside time to take stock of the natural talents of your people. Talk to them also about their passions, hopes, and dreams. You can’t lead people well if you don’t know who they are.

B. Do you need to free some eagles to soar and ducks to swim? If you have held down any eagles in your organization in the past or tried to turn ducks into eagles, you will need to do two things: First, reposition them so that they work according to their strengths. Second, you will need to regain their trust. Acknowledge their natural talents, help them to develop their strengths, and show them how they can contribute to the organization.

C. Do you know what potential leaders look like? I have yet to find an organization that had all the good leaders it needed. For that reason, good leaders are always on the lookout for potential leaders. If you have done your own research on leadership characteristics, use what you’ve found to create a description of what you’re looking for in potential leaders. If you haven’t, you may want to use one of my lists. This one is taken from my book The 360” Leader. I’ve found that good leaders and potential leaders display the following characteristics:

• Adaptability – Quickly adjust to change
• Discernment – Understands the real issues
• Perspective – Sees beyond their own vantage point
• Communication – Links to all levels of the organization
• Security – Does not find identity in position
• Servanthood – Does whatever it takes
• Resourcefulness -Find creative ways to make things happen
• Maturity – Puts the Team Before Self
• Endurance - Remains a consistent in character and competence over the long haul
• Countability – Can be counted on when it counts

If you see people who display most of these characteristics, you are probably looking at people with great leadership potential.

My quest to understand the Songs of Solomon came very fruitful lately. I have been following a study taught by Ps. Mark Driscoll in Marshill Church. The first thing that came to my mind was “What strange name (church name) they had!”. But after digging up some information on him and his church, for me, he seemed to be reliable source that can be trusted.

Mark Driscoll is not only a pastor but also an author, who wrote books like Vintage Jesus, Radical Reformation, On the Old Testament and many more

To know more about the church, click here.

I followed his series on youtube, which took me nearly two and a half months to finish. I thought it will be good to share, and hence this write-up.

He taught about a biblical marriage, boys becoming man, girls learning how to be walls rather than doors, having a servant relationship in marriage and many relational issues that are Biblical and after two whole months of listening to that, I find that it was a very practical teaching – something which I can carry along with me, a life which I can pursue to glorify God.

If you have the time, take a study on this book with him (Ps. Mark) and I hope that it will teach and enrich you, as it had been for me.

(I’m unable to post the video’s up here so, go to this link to listen – http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=633B53EB521F82E2 )

Agape